Indian Men : What scares Indian men

For all those feminists who can get blundered with the topic itself and start raising the voice let me tell you very clear that here we are absolutely not talking about the people who stares, stalks women or even eve-teases or for that matter rapes. Males, who roams in darkness just to grab one of those ladies who by any chance are walking alone or are in a remote area for some reason.

Here we are taking into consideration the gentlemen, who are faithful to their families and live their life around them, work hard and try to live life with loyalty and are innocent by all means.

So what scares Indian men?

And the answer is, Indian men, today, is scared to be falsely accused by woman.

Yes, a small, tiny truth, which is not even given a thought by a huge part of the society, but a fact. We have several laws stating only the woman’s part not the opposite one.

And to prove that only one example is enough.

Just a day before, I read a question on Quora.
And a so called respectful lady was asking that ,

How do I tell my husband that he is no longer good enough for me?

I got fit. I got promoted. There are dozens of men at my work that are better looking, drive better cars, stay in larger homes, that have manifested interest in me. I decided I deserve more and better.

Now if a man would have posted such shit, I guess a lot of feminist, till now, would have dragged that man on to the roads.

We have laws for dowry, people are punished, imprisoned, fined and lot more. I give my consent for it. But why don’t we have it’s negative direction covered. We have seen lot of false cases where a woman just to move in with her boyfriend, accuses falsely her in-laws and they suffers all their life.

And after divorce, what happen at that time, when women drags her husbands in the court for alimony even if she is not dependent. and just want divorce to make money out of this relation. Do we have laws for that. I don’t see any.

I feel there for men..

Are we Indians too weak to think in two direction simultaneously. Where we can make such laws which must covers all the aspects of a situation.

Why can’t we think beyond the current flows and take each and every facet into consideration so that at least the number of innocents getting thrashed, remains negligible.

I quote.

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Mirza Galib : Tribute to the soneteer

Taj Mahal is not the only marvel Agra has produced. But the city of pethas has been very unkind to its other Gems, foremost amongst them being Mirza Ghalib. The great soneteer from far old civilisation left an impression on the culture of the times and for years to come. Even today, the world continues to be in awe and admiration of him. He enriched the language by his writings, so much so that the language looks incomplete without him. Here we celebrate the greatness and the tenacity of words of Galib sahab masters.

Mirza Asadullah Beg Khan, known to the world as Ghalib, a non-de-plume he adopted, was born in Agra on Dec 27, 1797. With his marriage at the age of 13, he moved to Delhi. That was a defining moment for him. His initial years were very comfortable and the later was the opposite, largely in penury and on pension. He showed his poetic brilliance while he was very young. Large part of his work in Urdu was done by the time he was 19 years, within 6 years of his arrival to Delhi. He later dabbled in Persian and 30 years later, returned back to writing in Urdu, when he was a courtier. He produced pieces, both prose and poetry, which were as brilliant as his younger years. It was due to him that this language of commoners attained poetic status.

The toughest part for any lover of Urdu poetry is to figure out which are some of best couplets. It’s impossible to pick up a few. I have picked up a few, which I loved. There are many more, which I equally love, but want to restrict for this article. I don’t claim that these are the best nor do I have the competence to say so. Just enjoy them. If you love it, go for more on the net or buy a book.

The maestro had his own ‘signature’ style…andaaz-e-bayan aur..a class apart..

हैं और भी दुनिया में सुख़नवर बहुत अच्छे
कहते हैं ग़ालिब का अंदाज़-ए-बयां और ..

That he challenged the widely held concepts, to the disliking of the fundamentalists, tells me that he didn’t hold an orthodox view of religion.

हमको मालूम है जन्नत की हक़ीक़त लेकिन
दिल को ख़ुश रखने के लिए ग़ालिब ये ख्याल अच्छा है ..

Here is another one which drives the same point I made before. It becomes clear to me that he was a true liberal and disliked practioners of orthodoxy, hypocrisy and narrow-minded approach…the same very preacher was seen coming out of the pub…

कहाँ मैख़ाने का दरवाज़ा ग़ालिब और कहाँ वाइज़ ,
पर इतना जानते हैं के कल, वो जाता था और हम निकले ..

This one is my favourite…

हज़ारों ख्वाईशें ऐसी, के हर ख्वाइश पे दम निकले
बहुत निकले मेरे अरमां , लेकिन फिर भी कम निकले  ..

Have you seen a better romance with pain …isn’t it true in real life…when pain goes beyond tolerance…that very pain turns into the balm …

इशरत-ए-कतरा है दरिया में फ़ना हो जाना ,
दर्द का हद से गुज़रना है दवा हो जाना ..

The final one, I present to you, sums up the philosophy of life…mantra for leading a happy life…

कुछ इस तरह मैंने ज़िंदगी को आसां कर दिया ,
किसी से माफ़ी मांग ली, तो किसी को माफ़ कर दिया  ..

His original Takhallus (pen-name) was Asad, drawn from his given name, Asadullah Khan. At some point early in his poetic career he also decided to adopt the pen-name of Ghalib (meaning all conquering, superior, most excellent). At some places in his poetry Ghalib also used the pen name of Asad Ullah Khan.

Ustad of Urdu was buried in Hazrat Nizamuddin near the tomb of Nizamuddin Auliya. But his verses become eternal and lived forever in the million hearts of the poetic lovers.

Let’s just enjoy some more of Galib’s rhymes and let our emotions unleash.

सिसकियाँ लेता है वजूद मेरा गालिब,
नोंच नोंच कर खा गई तेरी याद मुझे।

इश्क़ पर ज़ोर नहीं है ये वो आतिश ग़ालिब,
कि लगाए न लगे और बुझाए न बने।

ज़िंदगी अपनी जब इस शक्ल से गुज़री,
हम भी क्या याद करेंगे कि ख़ुदा रखते थे।

तेरी वफ़ा से क्या हो तलाफी की दहर में,
तेरे सिवा भी हम पे बहुत से सितम हुए।

कहते तो हो यूँ कहते, यूँ कहते जो यार आता,
सब कहने की बात है कुछ भी नहीं कहा जाता

चांदनी रात के खामोश सितारों की क़सम,
दिल में अब तेरे सिवा कोई भी आबाद नहीं।

Ending this post with the most famous quote of recent times.

पीने दे शराब मस्जिद में बैठ कर,
या वो जगह बता जहाँ ख़ुदा नहीं।

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The Other Side of Fear

  • Most of us have two lives: the life we live, and the unlived life within us.  Steven Pressfield
  • Fear stifles our thinking and actions. It creates indecisiveness that results in stagnation. I have known talented people who procrastinate indefinitely rather than risk failure. Lost opportunities cause erosion of confidence, and the downward spiral begins.”Charles Stanley
  • The four-letter F-word that we should understand better and fight harder than fail is fear – Nicole V. Cramer
  • We are so scared of the unknown. Anything that we haven’t yet experienced can lead to fear – Andrea Holt
  • Bliss is on the other side of the fear – Will Smith

I will forever remember my first adventure sport – para sailing. I was absolutely terrified. Are you sure this parachute is going to stay up? The rope won’t creep out? “No sir, it’s not for sure. But it’s highly likely.” Great.

During water sports, I was scared nearly every moment when in the name of the banana ride the boatmen was taking us to almost the middle of the sea. Well, one thing was for sure—he was going to throw us there any moment. I drove myself crazy wondering what in the world that was going to feel like. But the feeling of laying down flat backwards on the water in the middle of ocean. Wow!!!

May be everyone, at least once in life time thought of why that one step terrify us, why pushing that just one step makes us pull one more back, why we don’t move ahead when every day life gives us new opportunities? Why???

The answer lies deep within us. Fear, fear to fail, fear to not reach to that chair of manager, fear to ask your crush for a date, fear to tell your parents about your dreams, fear to move out when nothing right is happening.

It’s the fear of rejection keeps us back, it’s the fear of failure which don’t let us even try once.

Even after all this if I would say, we should have fear, it is a must have thing. You might find me crazy, might have even thought, this person is retarded, he has just described how bad a fear can be, and now stating it as a must have.

But the truth is, yes we all should a fear within us, fear of not trying, fear of not giving us, our life, a chance to be the way we want it to be. Lets walk through some of the tricky situations, almost we all have faced.

What would have happened if you have asked your crush for a date on the last day of your college, she would not have married somebody else a year later.

What would have happened if you could have spirited the courage to tell your parents that you are good in music, you would not have been designing somebody’s else code, working 12 hours a day and still getting an average rating.

What would have happened if you followed the little inner voice crying out to you to say no to this marriage, you would not have ended up being a divorcee.

There are lot of ifs and buts, later in life when we misses out to push ourselves to just that one step at the right moment, and somehow we all know in which direction this flowchart can take us.

It’s when you stop procrastinating and you just do it because that’s where the magic is. We procrastinate when we’re afraid. It’s so much easier to avoid something than it is to face it. But we’re not here to take the easy way, oh no, we’re here to have incredible experiences.

It’s time. Right now. Not tomorrow but today.

Are you scared? Good, be excited instead. You’re about to have a soul-changing experience.

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22 Yards : The Journey of becoming God

  • “Sachin Tendulkar has carried the burden of the nation for 21 years. It is time we carried him on our shoulders” – Virat Kohli after India won the 2011 World Cup
  • “I have seen God, he bats at no. 4 for India” – Matthew Hayden
  • “We did not lose to a team called India. We lost to a man called Sachin” – Mark Taylor
  • “There are 2 kind of batsmen in the world. One Sachin Tendulkar. Two all the others” – Andy Flower
  • Sachin is a genius. I’m a mere mortal – Brian Lara
  • Sachin Tendulkar is, in my time, the best player without doubt – daylight second, Brian Lara third – Shane Warne
  • You were a great habbit, Sachin – Harsha Bhogle

Phew!!! Heavy words, Heavy names, no? But it’s not done yet.

‘Master Blaster’, ‘Little Master’, ‘The God of Cricket’, ‘The World’s Best Athlete’ — these are the titles bestowed upon one of India’s most revered personalities: Sachin Ramesh Tendulkar. His is a name that all Indians, and a many people the world over, know and worship.

Every time this legend took the crease, the country would reverberate with the chants of ‘Sachin, Sachin!’. All differences and squabbles between a billion people were forgotten for the sheer pleasure of watching this genius decimate the best bowlers on the planet with an inimitable grace. He united over a billion belligerent people in a way that no one and nothing ever has, and probably never will. It is no secret that cricket is a religion in India, and Sachin Tendulkar its most exalted God.

Sachin-Tendulkar

In a 24-year career, Tendulkar has set incredible records that include the ‘most runs scored in international cricket’, ‘most centuries in international cricket’, and ‘most Man-of-the-Match awards’, besides many, many more.

Sachin-last

A photograph of Sachin Tendulkar in his final Test appearance in Mumbai has been named the 2013 MCC – Wisden Photo of the Year.

He has inspired an entire generation of cricketers including me of course, and won the admiration of his colleagues and the sport’s erstwhile icons. And, despite all this fame and adulation he received, Tendulkar remained as humble as he was in the earliest days of his magnificent career.

Today, on Sachin’s 44th birthday, I just want to remember the moment when he bid adieu to those 22 yards he worshipped all his cricket life.  The day I cried like someone is taking my childhood away from me. Let’s just go back and cherish those moments for once.

collage1The day we chanted the guru mantra “Sachiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiin Sachiin”. on the ground for one last time after all he came, he played and he conquered. Words from the Master Blaster himself explain his success:

“I hate losing and cricket being my first love, once I enter the ground it’s a different zone altogether and that hunger for winning is always there.”

– Sachin Tendulkar

Image Source : Google

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